In this episode of the Manifesting Latina podcast, Dr. Norma Reyes discusses the detrimental effects of overgiving, particularly among women of color, and how it can block the ability to receive and manifest abundance. She explores the ancestral conditioning that leads to feelings of guilt when receiving and provides actionable steps to shift into a mindset of receiving. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-worth and the necessity of creating space for abundance in one's life.
Takeaways
Chapters
00:00 The Importance of Receiving
03:44 Understanding Overgiving and Its Roots
05:50 Steps to Embrace Receiving
Norma Manifestation Coach (00:01.208)
Hey everyone, welcome back to the Manifesting Latina podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Norma Reyes, and today's episode is one that feels deeply important for me to talk about because it hits home for so many of us. As a woman of color, as a caregiver, as nurturers, and cycle breakers, many of us carry the wound of overgiving and with it, a quiet guilt when it comes to receiving.
If we don't work through this guilt, if we keep holding on to the belief that we must give more, work harder, or do for others before doing for ourselves, we'll continue walking straight into burnout. Again and again, and not only that, we'll actually block ourselves from receiving the abundance that we say we want. Simply put,
If you can't receive, you can't manifest. And that's not because you're doing something wrong. It's because your energy is closed off to receiving the very things your soul is trying to call in. So today we're talking about why that is, how overgiving is deeply rooted in our ancestral conditioning, and how you can start shifting into the power
and how you can start shifting into the powerful grounded receiver you were always meant to be.
Let's start with why over giving blocks your manifestations. Manifestation requires an open energy field to receive. If you're actually constantly giving, giving to your kids, your clients, your partner, your job, your pets, whoever that you were constantly giving to except for yourself, you might unconsciously
Norma Manifestation Coach (02:12.312)
Believe that your worth is tied to your output. That your worth is tied to your output. That your value lies in what you can do for others. We've inherited generations of this message. That our goodness is proven through sacrifice. And it shows up in many different ways.
such as feeling uncomfortable when someone helps you, saying fine when you're not, over explaining, over apologizing, discounting your work or undervaluing your time, struggling to receive praise or compliments, feeling like you have to earn rest, joy or pleasure, feeling like you have to work extra hard to prove
that you did your due diligence. But here's the truth. You can't call in more, more love, more money, more support if there's no space for it. If you're too full because you're not nourished.
giving but not supported, busy but not aligned.
Norma Manifestation Coach (03:36.056)
So let's talk about some signs of how you might be in this over giving pattern. Let's get even clearer.
Norma Manifestation Coach (03:47.33)
some signs that you might be stuck in this over giving loop.
you pride yourself on being the strong one. The one that handles it all, but underneath you feel unseen, maybe even a little resentful.
Norma Manifestation Coach (04:08.14)
You find it hard to accept help even when you know you need it. You feel anxious resting or doing nothing even when your body's begging you for it. You over deliver and undercharge or you get underpaid. You constantly think I should be doing more or there's something I need to be doing right now.
And I want to remind you that some of it is not your fault. Most of us have learned to survive by becoming the helper, the fixer, the peacekeeper, the unseen one. But survival patterns will not lead to the life your soul is here to live. The version of you who receives with ease, she's not selfish, she's not lazy.
She is free. She is available. She is you. Already inside of you.
Norma Manifestation Coach (05:18.134)
So let's begin to heal. Let's practice on how to receive more with ease. Here are some steps you can take today to start softening those walls and opening yourself to receive more. Step one starts with awareness. Ask yourself these questions and feel free to journal if you like. Where am I over giving?
Where do I feel drained or resentful?
Norma Manifestation Coach (05:55.882)
Where do I struggle to receive? What do I believe I need to do in order to be deserving?
Where did I learn receiving is selfish or wrong?
What would it feel like to receive fully and freely?
Next, affirm and reprogram. It's important to stand once you create the space, once you've released, you need to then create new programming, new affirmations for yourself. You could say something like this. You could join me right now. I am worthy of receiving simply because I exist.
I can give and receive. The more I receive, the more I have to give joyfully and without resentment.
Norma Manifestation Coach (07:06.79)
And the last step is taking small actions to receiving. Let someone help you without deflecting, apologizing, or even controlling, because some of us want to control how things are done. Saying thank you when someone compliments you. You don't have to downplay it. Take it in. Give yourself 15 minutes.
Give yourself 15 guilt free minutes of rest or joy. And that's just the small step. I want you to get to like an hour of some guilt free rest or joy, but we're starting off small, okay? You can also light a candle and take three deep breaths and simply allow yourself to be.
Receiving is a practice and the more you honor it, the easier it becomes.
Norma Manifestation Coach (08:08.11)
So let me remind you, your ability to receive directly affects your ability to manifest. You can't pour from an empty cup and you weren't meant to. You are meant to receive and give.
Norma Manifestation Coach (08:30.187)
not from depletion.
You're not behind, you're not asking for too much, and you are never wrong for desiring more support, more joy, more love, more money.
Norma Manifestation Coach (08:48.962)
And that's it for today. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, screenshot it and tag me at the Manifesting Latina on Instagram. I love hearing how these episodes land for you. And if you're ready to go deeper in your healing and rewire your story around receiving, I'd love to support you. You can book a discovery call through the show links.
And just remember you are worthy of receiving with ease. Let's open up together and take in all the abundance that's meant for us. Talk to you on the next one.